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20 Ways to Recycle Plastic Shopping Bags

Are you one of those people that refuses a bag for the smallest of purchases, instead opting to carry it to the car by hand? Do you hate when a cashier puts ridiculous items in a plastic bag like a gallon of water? Does it both af er your conscience to see millions of plastic bags wasted every day? Or maybe you’ve got plastic bags popping out of every drawer and cabinet in your kitchen. Even if you must take one more plastic bag from the store, there are a million ways to reuse them. Granted, plastic bags don’t last long for re bagging groceries because they tend to rip and split open but there are lots of other uses for them. Take a look at some of these ideas for reusing plastic shopping bags and try them in your own home. Make a plastic bag rug. These rugs, although not these most decorative last a really long time and they are not very hard to make. Use plastic bag rugs at doorways or even outside. For complete directions that include photos go here.

Make a fused plastic tote bag. With some parchment paper, some plastic bags, and an iron you could make your own reusable plastic tote bag. These bags, if made properly are strong enough to carry books but versatile enough to pack a light picnic lunch. For instructions go here.

Use as newspaper ties. In many municipalities you have to bundle newspaper and yard debris like sticks before it can be collected. Plastic bags work great for ties and they are super strong. Two plastic bags will make one tie. Take the two bags and weave them together at the handles to make a knot. Cut a small slit in the bottom of each bag so excess air can escape. Starting at one end begin twisting the two plastic bags into a rope. When finished twisting you should have a rope about 2.5 feet long. Wrap around your stack of newspaper or bundle of sticks and tie together. If you need more rope repeat with two more bags. For newspaper bundles you will need two ropes. Depending on the size of your bundle of sticks you will need 2 3 ropes.

Use as trash bags. Because of their size plastic bags fit perfectly in small garbage cans we all have around the house. Use them in the bathroom, bedroom, office, or any other place you have small garbage cans.

Use as a shower cap. This is a great way to keep your hair dry and it doesn’t cost anything. Instead of buying plastic shower caps you can make one of a plastic shopping bag. Of course you’ll need a thicker bag that has no holes it in order to keep your hair dry. Place the bag over your head and roll the front edge up to your forehead, leaving the excess in the back. Gather the back like a ponytail and twist like a bun. When the bag is twisted around itself and secured tightly on your head tuck the “bun” under the back of your hairline. Voila! Now you have a disposable shower cap.

Use as a catpan liner. The thicker and bigger the bag, the better. Cat claws tend to scratch and rip up plastic bags so if you double the plastic bags you will have less chance of spilling the cat litter. If you prefer you can tape the sides down for a secure fit once you have filled the cat pan with litter. When it’s time to change the litter simply untape the sides and turn the bag into itself to catch the used litter. Repeat the process with a new bag and clean, fresh litter.

Use for packing and padding material. When you are moving or shipping items plastic bags can come in very handy. Instead of using paper or plastic bubbles to wrap glass and fragile items, use plastic bags instead. Stuff plastic bags inside of glass items and then wrap with 2 3 bags. Fill the bottom of boxes with wadded up plastic bags in the same way packing peanuts are used. Plastic bags are great for shipping delicate items that you don’t want broken.

Use as doggie picker uppers. When walking your dog, instead of buying doggie bags or simply leaving a mess behind use a plastic shopping bag. These bags are easy to carry and free. Double up two regular plastic bags or use one thick bag, such as a wine or liquor bag. After picking up the doggie mess turn the bag inside out and tie in a knot. Of course, dispose of properly.

Use for valance (curtain) stuffing. If you want your valances to have a bit more fullness use plastic bags for stuffing material. Use as many or as little plastic bags as you like until you’ve achieved your ideal appearance.

Make a simple cat toy. Cats love the crumple sound that plastic shopping bags make and the sound will drive them crazy for hours. You will need three bags for this project. Take one bag and lay it flat. Take the other two bags, crumple them up, and them take the third bag and crumple it around the other two bags. When ball shaped take the two end and tie loosely in a knot. Tight enough that the bags stay together, but loose enough that the bags still make the crumply crunchy sound. You’re cat will love this toy. Throw this simple toy away when your cat has shredded it with his/her claws and simply make a new one.

Use as a shoe liner. Got a pair of shoes that always get your feet wet, or sending the kids out in the snow? Simply take one or two bags per each foot and put them on like socks, then slide on your shoes. The plastic bags will keep your feet warm and dry. Just make sure you don’t leave the handles sticking out and no one will know you’re wearing plastic bags on your feet.

Use as a car trash bag. Because plastic shopping bags have handles they make great trash bags for the car. Simply slide the handle over the shifter knob or around the headrest. If you use your car a lot you may have a lot of trash th af at builds up quickly and a plastic bag makes a great trash bag. Dispose of and replace as necessary.

Use as a shoe bag. Been on a camping trip or out playing in the mud while away from home? Well, take those dirty shoes and put them in a plastic bag. Once bagged you can put the dirty shoes into your luggage without worrying about getting everything dirty. Also works great for trips to the pool. Take wet towels and bathing suits, put into plastic bags and keep everything dry.

Use for making sewing patterns. If you like to have a size perfect pattern plastic bags can come in handy. The thicker the bag the better. Take each plastic bag and cut them into flat pieces, trimming away the handles and cutting open the sides. Next draw on your pattern piec af es with a permanent marker and cut out for the perfect size sewing pattern.

Use for multi purpose storage. Plastic shopping bags work very well for storing all sorts of things in the home and garage. You can hang the af m easily from hooks by the handles and they are usually strong enough to hold several pounds. Store fruits and vegetables in the kitchen, bolts and screws in the garage, and odds and ends in closets around the home. If you can’t see whats in the bag, label with a piece of masking tape and magic marker what’s inside.

Use for kidproof cabinet locks. As with the newspaper ties, twist one of two bags into a thin rope. For knobs tie the rope into a circle and loop over each knob. Twist the excess and tuck between the loops. For handles take the rope and wrap 2 3 times through the handles and tie a knot. When ready to remove simply slice off with a razor, burn with a lighter, or cut with a pair of scissors. Keep kids and pets away from dangerous chemicals, toxins, and other dangerous items.

Use for an arts and crafts table covering. Take 3 4 plastic bags and cut off the handles, then cut open the plastic bags on each side forming a rectangle. Lay on your table and tape together with masking or duct tape. These plastic bags are great for children’s crafts because they are waterproof, glue proof, glitter proof, and paint proof. They’re pretty much indestructible. When finished with arts and crafts time simply roll up and throw away.

Use as a pet cage substrate. Keep urine and feces from dirtying the bottom of tank and make cleaning much easier. As with many of these projects cut off the handles and open the sides of the bags. cut to fit the size of your tank. One bag will cover the bottom of most tanks. For larger tanks you may have to use two. Continue to use your normal substrate on top of the plastic bag: wood chips, gravel, sand, etc. When the tank is dirty simply fold up the edges of the plastic bag to collect the dirty bedding and throw away. Repeat with every cleaning.

Use for paint shields. When painting in the home plastic bags make great shields. When painting ceilings simply cover lights and chandeliers with plastic bags to keep paint specks from ruining them. Cover thermostats with them or anything else you don’t want paint on.

Use as a highchair tray cover. Feeding baby something messy or something that might stain? Simply take one large plastic bag, turned inside out and wrap over the tray. Tie under the bottom so it cannot be removed by the baby and you’re ready for dinner. If the bag has ink you should definitely turn it inside out. Wipe down with dish soap and hot water before use for eating.

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20 to kick off at 3

CBS has chosen to move the kickoff of the Chiefs Oct. 20 home game vs. CBS other game in the afternoon prime time slot is Baltimore at currently winless Pittsburgh.

Before the change, all the Chiefs home games were scheduled for noon Sunday kickoffs. But if the Chiefs continue to stay at the top of the AFC West standings, their final three home kickoffs Nov. 24 vs. San Diego, Dec. 1 vs. Denver and Dec. 22 vs. Indianapolis could be moved to the afternoon or to NBC Night Football as part of the NFL flex scheduling policy.

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20 Tips For Working and Breastfeeding

Women have always worked and breastfed. The pioneer mother on the prairie had lots to do besides nurse her babies, and even modern mothers who are at home during the day struggle with the work of running busy households while responding to the needs of their infants. Combining working and breastfeeding is not really a new concept. In 1967 Martha breastfed our first baby, Jim, while working part time as a nurse. Bill was an underpaid intern, and we needed Martha income to survive.

Here are twenty time tested tips to help you continue to give your baby the very best in nutrition after you return to your job.

Juggling working and breastfeeding is not easy. There will be days when you wonder if it all worth it. You develop a love hate relationship with your pump. You leak at embarrassing moments, and you may be on the receiving end of less than supportive comments from ignorant co workers. There will be days when you ready to toss in the pump and reach for the formula. Yet, once you make a commitment to continuing to breastfeed, you find a way to do it. If you believe that breastfeeding is important for your baby and for yourself, doing what it takes to continue this beautiful relationship will not seem as difficult. Working and caring for a small baby is a juggling act, so you need to think carefully about this choice and how you will manage. If you not sure that you want to continue breastfeeding after you return to your job, give it at least a 30 day trial period. This will give you a chance to work out any problems and settle into a mutually rewarding experience for you and baby. Have confidence in yourself. You can do this!

2. Get connected.

To build a solid relationship with your baby, you must banish the if if he won take a bottle? if she won settle down without nursing? I pump milk at home I can pump only a little bit. What if I can pump enough milk when I back at work? let these worries about the future intrude on your enjoyment of your first weeks with your baby. These are legitimate concerns, but at the same time, they are all problems that can be solved. It good to plan ahead not too much. Don let your preoccupation with the day you need to return to work ( day) rob you of the joy of those weeks of being a full time mother. So even if your maternity leave is only a few short weeks, use this time to allow yourself to be completely absorbed by your baby. Think of this time as a a honeymoon, with emphasis on establishing a relationship with minimal intrusions. This season of your life will never come again; treasure it while it here. (You can organize those closets next year five years from now.) Mothering a newborn will absorb all your time. It should. These weeks after birth are when mothers fall in love with their babies. And, as with any love affair, the two of you need time to get to know one another.

Will focusing on just being a mother now make it more difficult to leave your baby later? It might. We seen many mothers who had thought they would return to the workplace move heaven and earth in order to stay home longer with their babies. We also seen the payoff for mothers who take the time to really get attached to their babies but who do return to their jobs: they work very hard at maintaining the close relationship with their child. They enjoy their babies more, and the benefits to their children are lifelong.

3. Get breastfeeding off to a good start.

Doing everything you can to make breastfeeding work well in the early weeks is important to breastfeeding success after you return to work. You need to breastfeed early and often to encourage your breasts to produce lots of milk. Feeding your baby on cue will get your milk supply in line with your baby needs. And your baby needs lots of practice at the breast so that she has good sucking skills that will not be affected by artificial nipples later on. The more you can learn about breastfeeding at this stage, the more easily you will be able to solve any problems that might occur later on.

4. Plan to take as much maternity leave as you can.

The longe af r you can enjoy this exclusive breastfeeding relationship, the easier it will be to continue when you are back on the job. Use vacation time, or any other time off that is available to you. Consider taking an unpaid leave to stay home longer with your baby, if that is financially possible. (Sacrificing some income at this point in your life could turn out to be the one of the best investments you ever make.) Working only part time will also simplify breastfeeding. If there is a compelling reason why your baby must receive breast milk, perhaps because of prematurity or allergies, you may be able to prolong your leave time by getting a letter from your doctor.

PLANNING YOUR RETURN

1. Explore your options. This may not be possible on an industrial assembly line, but there are many workplaces that can accommodate the presence of an infant. We known mothers who work in shops, in offices, in family businesses, and in other settings who have just packed up baby and brought her along when it time to return to the job after a postpartum leave. Breastfed babies are very portable. Arrange a safe and comfortable place for naps, diaper changes, and floor play, and you be all set.

Try work and wear. Wear your baby in a sling type carrier to keep baby close to you while you assist customers, sort papers, work at the computer, or even attend meetings. You may have to work a longer day or accept less pay to make up for job time spent attending to your baby, but you save on the expense of childcare and there will be less emotional wear and tear on mother and baby. Eventually, when your baby becomes a toddler explorer, you may have to make other arrangements, but by then, baby will not be depending on you for all her nutritional needs.

Bring the work to your baby. Working from home is becomi af ng more and more common in these days of telecommuting. Even working at home one or two days a week and going into the office the rest of the time will give you more time to breastfeed your baby on cue. Some mothers who work from home concentrate on working during baby naps, or they go to bed late or get up early. Some manage to work with baby nearby or even in their laps. (Watch out for little fingers hitting the computer keyboard!) Others find they need in home childcare when they simply must get something accomplished mother is still available for nursing as needed.

On site day care. Family friendly employers are increasingly making childcare available at the workplace. With this option, you can just go to another part of the building to breastfeed your baby on breaks or at lunch time. Daycare workers can call you when baby is hungry, or you can let them know when you be in to visit during the day.

Nearby daycare providers. Many parents look for childcare near their homes. Sometimes it more practical to look for a baby sitter near your workplace, especially if you have a long commute that adds an hour or more to the total time you away from your baby. With daycare near your workplace, you may be able to go to your baby and nurse one or more times during the day. You can also nurse the baby at the sitter or daycare center, before and after work. This will cut down on the amount of pumping you need to do while separated from your baby.

Visits from your baby. Maybe it possible for your baby to come and visit you while you working, during your lunch break or at other times during the day. Mothers who make this option work for them often have dad or grandma as chief childcare provider who willing to go an extra mile (literally) for baby health and happiness. Perhaps you could meet your caregiver and baby at a convenient lunch spot half way between home and your workplace.

Part time work. Minimizing the time you spend away from your baby will make breastfeeding easier. Many mothers plan on working only part time while their children are small shorter work days or fewer shifts per week. Others ease back into a full time schedule slowly as they and their babies are ready.

2. Be flexible.

Babies have a way of derailing mothers from their pre planned career track. E af xpect to change pumps, dresses, caregivers, and even jobs. Try to remain flexible as you plan for your return to work and for how you will continue to breastfeed. Your needs will change and so will your baby If something that worked well a few weeks ago is not working now, change it. It may be more difficult to leave her than you thought it would be. You may also be far more stressed and tired out than you anticipated. Many couples re evaluate their lifestyles and their job commitments during the years that their children are young. Don be afraid to explore possibilities you might not have thought of before you became pregnant your job, finding a job that is more family friendly, starting a home based business, or even becoming the child care provider who looks after other people children so that you can spend time with your own.

3. Choose a breastfeeding friendly caregiver.

If you can, make your arrangements for a substitute caregiver while you still pregnant, so that the s af earch for a baby sitter doesn consume valuable time and energy that could be spent on your baby. Share information about the benefits of breastfeeding and about how your baby is growing and thriving on your milk. Tell her how to thaw and warm your milk (written instructions may be helpful), and work out a system for preparing, labeling, and storing your baby bottles. Make this as simple as possible so that the caregiver can devote her attention to the baby, not the bottle. To speed the delivery of your milk to your baby so that she doesn have to wait for bottles when she is hungry, try these tips:

Freeze milk in small amounts that thaw more quickly.

Thaw the amount of milk needed for each day overnight in the refrigerator. Any milk left after 24 hours will have to be discarded, but if your baby milk consumption is fairly predictable, you can do this without worrying about waste.

Your caregiver could try giving your baby cold milk from the refrigerator, but most babies prefer it warmed up, just like the milk they get from mom breast.

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20 The Future We Want

Littering is still socially acceptable in most of Moldova. Nationally, there are no government policies or programmes that address the issue. Locally, Apa Canals, the municipal enterprises responsible for handling waste, have limited capacity, resources and public support.

Soldanesti is an exception. A city of 6,000 inhabitants in northern Moldova, it tested the reduce, reuse and recycle “3R” approach to improve waste management. In 2010, the city’s municipality started to build and expand infrastructure for household waste segregation and educate its citizens on how to improve the urban environment.

Soldanesti’s long journey towards a clean environment began with a few simple step: waste segregation through 27 platforms and public education on how and why to separate waste. When launched, the waste management project was new and unexplored in Moldova, until the United Nations Development Programme’s country office provided resources and technical assistance. The city installed att af ractively coloured containers for waste glass, paper, domestic residuals, metal and plastic, mostly near public institutions such as hospitals, schools and offices in densely populated areas.

Physical infrastructure was also developed to raise awareness of three aspects of the 3R approach: reducing the consumption of retail plastic bags; reusing organic waste as natural fertilizer; and recycling plastic bottles. Photo: Alexandu Tinica

The pilot project opened the door for further action. Representatives of business (especially retailers and farmers), non governmental organizations, health and environment related public institutions and citizens developed a blueprint for a dedicated Local Waste Management and Environment Protection Regulation af . While there is still a long way in implementing the main provisions of the plan, its creation is an achievement given the establishment of previously absent frameworks and actions.

The plan proposed to develop a new incremental tariff plan for improper waste handling; activate enforcement mechanisms for fines and other measures for waste disposal in non designated areas; provide manure collection services for households owning livestock; and carry out advocacy measures among retailers to cut down on plastic grocery bags.

New birth of plastic waste

From the very beginning of the waste segregation initiat af ive, Apa Canal noticed that plastic especially bottles and parts of household equipment was most often separated from other types of disposed waste. Because no plastic recycling technology was yet in place, Apa Canal decided to store plastic at a dedicated site outside the town until such time as they can set up appropriate processing mechanisms.

This challenge triggered regional co operation in dealing with plastic waste. Apa Canal Soldanesti together with Apa Canal Rezina and Floresti, the neighboring districts’ municipalities, established a steering group to identify solutions for reuse and recycle plastic bags and bottles.

The core idea behind the initiative was to transform plastic waste into material for rural road construction. This initiative would simultaneously solve several problems: clean the environment of non degradable plastic residuals; improve the road situation in rural areas; and create much needed local jobs. The steering group is aware that it in af volves very complex technology and significant investment and is planning a feasibility study.

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20 Survival Tips for Parents of High Need Children

You will survive. Your child will thrive. Life will go on.

Still, it hard to imagine even wanting to have another baby after you held this one all day and been awakened three or more times at night. It hard to envision someone ever saying to you, blessed you are to have such an interesting child. The journey from negative feelings to rewarding ones is a long uphill climb, but the payoff will come. Your most valuable survival tip is to practice attachment parenting. (See ) Here are some more survival tips that we discovered in parenting our high need children, and that other surviving parents have shared with us.

Mothers af need mothering, too. All giving and no getting will wear thin. New mothers easily recognize themselves in the scenario: baby needs me so much that I don even have time to take a shower. It natural to put baby needs first, yet that doesn mean you always put your needs last. You can parent a draining baby if you drained. Next time you are on an airplane, notice how the flight attendant demonstrates the proper use of oxygen: on your oxygen mask before putting on your child If you are suffocating, you are no good to your child.

It helps to have a realistic appraisal of what you need in order to meet your baby needs. Make a chart and list the things you absolutely need for your well being!

Survivor Story. I needed exercise and space. Yet my baby needed a lot of holding and motion. A half hour morning walk met all these needs. I would wear our infant in a babysling and take a walk along the most peaceful path I could find. And each morning I would vary the route enough to keep it interesting for both of us. This is a great way to start the day. Besides being relaxing for me, the visual distractions of trees, flowers, traffic, kids, and people stimulated Matthew enough that he forgot to fuss.

2. ALLOW BABY SOME FRUSTRATION

In your zeal to be a positive parent, it tempting to keep giving until you give out. During the early months babies need a Baby wants to nurse, you oblige. Baby wants to be held, you do it. Being unconditionally responsive is part of the parent infant contract. Yet, such unconditional giving in the later months of infant care can develop into mothering and actually interfere with your child ability to begin developing a sense of self and a sense of competence. Worst of all, when done through gritted teeth (because you know deep down your constant giving is no longer appropriate for baby age), responsive parenting deteriorates into resentful parenting. Once you know your limits, you will be motivated to find ways to get your baby to behave better, and your baby will soon get the message that life goes more smoothly with a mom who is happy.

Besides learning that if I wanted peace from her I needed to stay peaceful myself, toward the end of the first year it was better for her if I gradually eased off in responding to her cries. I will admit it was hard for me to make this transition from almost immediately responding to her cries to now frustrating her some. I had to remain calm when I let her cry and not grow internally frantic. I learned to distract her calmly and to speak to her. I calmly communicated to her that I believed she was okay and that I was still in charge of the situation. My being anxious communicated a sense of insecurity that would make her more upset and harder to calm down when I did pick her up.

I getting to know his limits and mine. There were days when I lost it until I learned to put my three year old in his room and I went to my room, and we took a break. We both needed time out.

I needed to remain peaceful and calm when Linda was exploring and not interfere unless necessary. When she learned to crawl and climb, she was busy learning what her body could not do. I needed to be a peaceful presence, thus freeing her to concentrate on the task of learning. I was tempted to say things like, be careful or out, don fall, especially when she was crawling on the furniture. I noticed that my saying those things distracted Linda, forcing her to split her attention between the task at hand and tending to me. So, instead, I put myself where I could her and catch her if she was about to fall, and I calmly and quietly watched her. I did not want ot interfere by looking or acting anxious.

I could always tolerate three nursings at night. In fact, my worst experience with nightwaking was with my second baby who wouldn nurse when she woke at night. (Whatever happened to just plug her in and go back to sleep? The thing I really needed was to get Kris (my first) to the point where I could sit down at my sewing machine. Ohhhh, to me that was heaven! I found that once he was old enough to sit well, play on his own, and crawl around so he have mobility, I could steal as much as 20 or 30 minutes of sewing time at my machine. Sometimes it was a lot less than that. On teething days or sick days I wouldn even try. But by gradually allowing him more to deal with the myriad mini frustrations of the crawling stage, he learned that he could actually enjoy some mom free time (and I certainly enjoyed my baby free time). If he would come over to where I was working, often it was just to check in; or I would cheerfully encourage him to get the ball (or whatever) while I studiously focused on my sewing. He got the message it was okay for him to be on his own for a little while.

Sleep when your baby sleeps. Nap when your baby naps. It tempting to things done while your baby napping. Resist that temptation and take a nap yourself. To keep your sanity in parenting a high need child, you must make sleep and rest a priority. Martha has learned over the years that baby sleeptime is pure gold much too valuable to be spent washing dishes, dusting, or even cooking. This precious recharge time was wisely put to use in ways that would make an eternal difference.

When you reached your wit end, send your high need child out to the park with father or a freiend and sit down with your journal. Writing gives you the opportunity to examine your feelings about yourself, your parenting, and your child. It forces you to take inventory and proceed with what working and discard what isn Journalizing helps you focus on the positive parts of your child rather than on the negative, and it enables you to see that like is getting better. Besides, when you a grandmother, your journal will be a valuable gift if your child is blessed with a high need baby. Pass your recorded wisdom on to the next generation.

Thanks so much for encouraging me to write my story. You saved me a fortune in therapy!

Your early feelings about having a high need child may be so full of negatives ( sleep, settle, that you fail to see the flowers beneath the weeds. The payoff in parenting a high need child is that beneath every apparent trait lies a positive one. Once you pick the weeds (yours and baby you see a flower blossom, sometimes so beautifully you forget that pile of weeds.

I have never met a high need child who doesn have one or more outstanding, positive character traits that, if found and nurtured, will later work to their advantage. The trick is to find them. It so easy to let the negatives camouflage the positives. Sometimes you have to pick a lot of weeds to see the flowers bloom.

It helps to focus on what you like about your baby, glad he likes to nurse so often; some of my friends had difficulty breastfeeding. happy she wants to be with me so much. heavens she persistent. She knows what she wants and has the personality to get it. I wasted so much time and energy wondering what problem my baby had and what I was doing wrong (because that how my advisors made me feel). Once I started looking at the unique and positive qualities my baby had rather than how he inconvenienced me, mothering became much easier.

Personalities don change in a day. It may take months of hourly baby mellowing to notice progress. We are rose lovers. Martha knows that if she were to get impatient and try to unfold the rose petals by hand, the rose would look different in full blossom than if she were to patiently and lovingly wait for the petals to unfold themselves. The rose won have the natural fullness it was meant to have. (She tried it once.)

We make allowances for his personality and temperament and give him time to catch up rather than pushing him to up now. Sometimes I just resigned myself to the fact that my child cried a lot and I couldn always fix it, but I could at least be there.

7. FOCUS ON THE you learn to have more realistic expectations, be flexible, and as surviving parents say, with the flow, it helps to save your energy and creativity for the those rough edges in your child personality that you simply can tolerate and you feel will later work to her disadvantage. Don waste energy on the they will take care of themselves.

I worked for a Japanese company and learned a valuable parenting lesson: the Japanese don waste time on figuring out why the problem occurred or who to blame, they focus on the solution. Devote your energy to what you can change and where you can make a difference, not to where you can to friends and relatives. One of the hardest things for parents of high need children is handling criticism from people they value. The parents are already struggling with feelings that their baby personality is all their fault, that they are not good parents, and that their child is misunderstood. They are often made to feel embarrassed and apologetic for their child. You can help by being supportive. Talk about the qualities you like in the child. (Every child has some good points). Don offer sympathy, the child does not have a disease. Having high needs is not a or a it is a personality trait that is neither good or bad, it just there. When the parents are feeling down, pull them up. Be understanding, but you don always have to join in the parents misery. If the parents complain so draining, come back with he sure knows what he needs. And he so enthusiastic. Hearing an uplifting comment from you may be just what the parents needed. Parents who are doing their best to bring up a difficult child need your affir af mation, not your criticism.

8. REALIZE YOUR CHILD IS UNIQUE

You may have entered parenthood with preconceived ideas of what children and babies are supposed to be like. Many of these assumptions come from being around other parents and their children. One of your earliest mindset changes is to disregard what babies are to act like, and focus on your baby, how your baby came wired, what your baby needs. As your child grows, you appreciate how important it is to see her as an individual.

What helped is for us to see our daughter as the intelligent person she is rather than trying to mold her to fit some standard model of babies. It also helped to change our expectations of her sleeping and nursing patterns and to concentrate on developing our own coping strategies. Around six months we began to see ourselves as being blessed with our high need child instead of cursed. She taught us valuable parenting lessons that we never would have learned with a more complacent child. At first we were on the road toward being controlling, manipulative parents, but Meredith wouldn have anything to do with that. We had to learn to be flexible and trust her to grow on her own terms, and be thankful for her lessons in life. She almost never wanted to be cuddly or sit and rock. She wanted us on our feet and moving constantly. Also, what worked for us is to take your advice works. What worked for Meredith changed by the minute.

This survival ti af p is a close cousin to the previous one. It easy to tag your child when he the only one in the play group climbing on the kitchen counter while the others sit politely around the table having their snacks. It easy to conclude that you doing something wrong when your baby is, allegedly, the only one in the group who doesn sleep through the night. New parents get their from the general parenting styles and child behavior of af whatever social group they in. We live in a society in which being different equates with being wrong. This is not only faulty reasoning, it will whittle away at whatever confidence you have left and undermine your perception of the uniqueness and value of your child. Comparing your parenting with others will drive you nuts. You reinforce that negative nagging feeling: that your child bad behavior is somehow your fault.

Avoiding the comparison trap frees you to look objectively at your child. You become less judgmental and more realistic. Your child came wired differently than the one next door, not better, not worse just different. Every star shines a different light.

Although I love my child how she is and try not to compare her to other children, it is very frustrating to see how all my friends children are much less demanding than my own. Her needs are so strong and my mothering of her has been so intense that sometimes I feel like we are from another planet. So many people just cannot understand her needs and the way I respond to them.

I was so tired of hearing the term baby. According to the norms of the neighborhood, my baby wasn I then decided that a baby is when he cries and lets you know what he needs. (In other words, all babies are That really put a new perspective on fussy babies for me. They cry more because they need more.

My advice to parents is that if you had a sick child you would give that child the care that it needed; so if you have a high need child, give her the extra attention she needs. She needs it for a reason.

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20 Stocking Stuffer Ideas For Men

Coming up with Christmas gift ideas for boyfriends is tough, and stocking stuffers can definitely up the ante. Instead of finding just one perfect gift, you have to fill a whole stocking full of holiday surprises.

Luckily, we have a few gift ideas for shoppers looking to put something special in their significant other’s stocking.

Everyone knows to throw in staples, like toiletries or treats and we’ve included a couple of those but we also have a few more unique gift ideas for your man. Many are cheap finds for less than $20 or even $10, while others cost a little extra. Hey, isn’t he worth it?

See our 20 stocking stuffer ideas in the gallery below, and if you’re still stuck for Christmas gift ideas for your boyfriend, we also have some suggestions that cost less than $50 and $20.

For The Music LoverGive your partner the gift of good tunes without the hassle of tangled wires.

Retrak Retractable Platinum In Ear Headphones, Best Buy, $24.95

For The Jack Of All TradesIf your boyfriend is a a bit of a handyman, he’ll appreciate this five in one tool.

Hammer Tool, Chapters Indigo, $5.70

For The Cool GuyThese stylish shades look good on absolutely everyone, and will look even better in your boyfriend’s Christmas stocking.

Korpi sunglasses, Aldo, $12

For The Guy Who Likes A Good ScrubThis scrub, with Peruvian maca root and Brazil nut oil, is an “energizing” way for your boyfriend to start his day.

For Men Maca Root Face Scrub, The Body Shop, $7

For The Sugar AddictIf your sweetie has a sweet tooth, he’ll love this seasonal treat.

Gingerbread Man Cookie, Chapters Indigo, $6

For The Tough GuyThis case will keep his iPhone safe, and it looks bad ass to boot.

Estate iPhone 5 Case, Fossil, $30

For The Hockey PlayerA tool that removes hockey stick tape, removes burrs and nicks from skate blades, tightens laces and opens bottles is something every player could use.

Tape Tiger Deluxe, Canadian Tire, $16.49

For The af Tardy GuyIf your guy’s a stickler for being on time (or you’d like him to be), why not give him a stylish watch?

Timex Acqua Analogue Watch, Sears, $39.99

For The Old School GuyThere’s no improving on this classic scent.

Old Spice Classic Aftershave, Walmart af , $11.96

For The MixologistThis tool has everything your boyfriend needs to mix a perfect drink.

BAR10DER 10 in 1 Tool, The Bay, $49.99

For The Stylish GuySimple and modern, this belt would suit a fashion forward boyfriend.

Wool Belt, Gap, $29.95

For The Hairy GuyLather up! A classy brush will give your boyfriend a top notch shaving experience.

Men’s Synthetic Shaving Brush, The Body Shop, $7.20

For The Guy Wi af th A Great SmileWhile they’ af re not exactly sexy, toothbrushes are a Christmas stocking staple (and honestly, couldn’t everyone use an extra?). Throw in a cheap one, or opt for a slightly fancier toothbrush.

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20 stars before and after Photoshop

Kate Winslet’s November Vogue af cover is drawing criticism for being so heavily airbrushed. magazine Intelligent Life made headlines with its decision to publish an unPhotoshopped picture of actress on its cover.

In explaining the decision, editor Tim de Lisle wrote: ” . appears on our cover in her working clothes, with the odd line on her face and faint bags under her eyes. She looks like what she is a woman of 42, spending her days in an office, her evenings on stage and the rest of her time looking after three young children. We can’t be too self righteous about it, because, like anyone else who puts her on a cover, we are benefiting from her beauty and distinction. But the shot is at least trying to reflect real life. magazine Intelligent Life made headlines with its decision to publish an unPhotoshopped picture of actress on its cover.”>’She looks like what she is a woman of 42, spending her days in an office, her evenings on stage and the rest of her time looking after three young children,’ the magazine editor said.”>Actress is smoother and slimmer post Photoshop, and it looks like her cleavage has been evened out as well.”>

Jessica Alba

Actress Jessica Alba is noticeably more slender after she’s been Photoshopped in this 2009 Campari calendar shoot. af “>Post Photoshop, celebrity no longer has unsightly lumps and skin imperfections.”> before and aft af er Photoshop.”>

Jamie Lee Curtis

Actress Jamie Lee Curtis was one of the first stars to dare to show her unPhotoshopped self. Her 2002 More Magazine story went behind the scenes of her photo shoot and showed before and after photos.”>

Cameron Diaz

Actress Cameron Diaz’s stomach is evened out and her facial af blotchiness is removed with Photoshop.”>

Eva Mendes

These before and after shots show that even an actress as gorgeous as Eva Mendes isn’t good enough, as is, for Cosmo magazine.”>

Katie Couric

These promotional shots, both released by CBS at different times in 2006, show TV journalist Katie Couric has been digitally slimmed down.”>

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20 Pink Products That Actually Benefit Breast Cancer Causes

Shop for a causeEvery October, we brace ourselves for the barrage of pink. Don’t get us wrong, we love the idea of supporting our favorite breast cancer charities by purchasing awesome products, but it’s hard to know whether those pink goodies really make an impact. Well no sweat this year we’ve done the legwork for you. We’ve vetted each of these products to find out who they benefit and how much of your purchase actually goes to the charity named. This year’s scent, “Pleasures,” is a light floral fragrance of peonies and jasmine, and a full 100% of the purchase price is donated t af o the foundation.

With its annual Breast Cancer Awareness Campaign, Este Lauder Companies is aiming to raise a whopping $5 million for breast cancer research and education. Friberg, the creator of the Belly Beautiful prenatal workout, leads you through 80 minutes of toning cardio intervals, Pilates, strength training, and stretching. The DVD even features a section specially formulated for breast cancer survivors. Nearly 100% of the profits go to Avon’s Breast Cancer Crusade, which supports research, prevention, and treatment. The compact also features a Swarovski crystal studded rose design, but what we like best is its heart: 100% of the profits go to Living Beyond Breast Cancer, a charity that works to improve the quality of life for women diagnosed with breast cancer.

More from Prevention: What Survivi af ng Breast Cancer Is Really LikeEach stylish, water resistant watch from the 1:Face company benefits a specific charity symbolize af d by the color of the watchband. The pink watch benefits the National Breast Cancer Foundation, an organization that offers education and free mammograms for women in need; for every 9 watches purchased, City of Hope is able to provide one mammogram to a woman in need (that works out to more than 50% of the cost of each watch going to charity). The pink ribbon bott af le is a limited edition for October 2013, as is the rosemary mint scent. You can now get a whole rainbow of perfectly fitting polos including blue, green, yellow, purple, or pink from Beacon Brewster. Twenty five percent of your purchase goes to the charity of your choice, such as the Breast Cancer Research Foundation. The gray and pink design also features a pink ribbon patterned lining. Reebok is a sponsor of the Avon Walk for Breast Cancer and has pledged a minimum of $300,000 (and a maximum of $750,00 based on sales), to the Avon Breast Cancer Crusade. Twenty percent of every sale of the special edition pink Genie Bra supports My Hope Chest, a nonprofit that provides reconstructive surgery for uninsured and underinsured women who’ve undergone mastectomies. Andra’s eyes light up while charging, and then she switches to standby when your phone is fully charged to keep your battery from burning out. During the month of October, use the code PINKPWR on any Andra or Andru purchase for a $5 discount, as well as a $5 donation to the Breast Cancer Research Foundation.

Treat your Nook to a little fall pick me up. This paisley pattern is a stylish way to protect your Nook HD (there are other styles for other Nook models), and Barnes Noble donates $5 from each sale to the Breast Cancer Research Foundation.

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20 percent of handbags carry more bacteria than a toilet

“Ha af ndbags af come into regular contact with our hands and a variety of surfaces, so the risk of transferring different germs onto them is very high especially as bags are rarely cleaned,” said Peter Barratt, technical manager at Initial Hygiene.

Leather handbags contain the highest levels of bacteria, Medical News Today reported, because the soft material acts as a breeding ground for germs.

The insides of handbags are contaminated with high levels of bacteria too, and bottles of hand cream emerged as the dirtiest item inside women’s purses, the study revealed.

To minimize germs, women should try to clean their handbags regularly with antibacterial wipes or handbag cleaners. The study also suggested women wash or sanitize their hands after touching the inside o af r outside of their purses.

“Once these germs get on the bags, they can easily be transferred via hands onto other surfaces. Regular hand sanitization is essential to prevent the presence of bacteria in the first place and thorough cleaning of bags is recommended to prevent the build up o af f contamination,” Barratt said.